The Do's and Don'ts of Bed-Wetting

There are many dos and don'ts that parents should be aware of in regards to their children who suffer from enuresis, or bed-wetting. Bed wetting is a common problem among children, and as the parent of a bed-wetter, a little knowledge can go a long way to bolster your child's self-esteem.

The Do's

DO speak with your child's pediatrician at the first sign that bed-wetting has developed into a problem. Never keep this kind of information from the doctor as he or she can be a wealth of information and advice, and can serve to put your mind, as well as your child's mind, at ease.

DO explain to your anxious or frightened child what is taking place in regards to his or her bed-wetting situation and be open and honestly answer any questions that your child may ask.

If you were a bed wetter as a child,

DO share your experience with your youngster so they feel less alone. It is comforting to know that someone you love once experienced what you are presently going through.

DO educate yourself as best you can about your child's bed-wetting. There is plenty of information to be found on the Internet, and both your pediatrician and your local library will also have resources. In addition, your doctor may be able to direct you to a support group. The more information you have, the more able you will feel to cope with the situation.

DO remain as patient and as calm as possible under the trying circumstances. You are upset enough by the situation; just think how your child must feel.

DO be understanding and supportive of your child. He likely feels a great deal of shame, self-ridicule and fear at his bed-wetting problem. Try to diffuse the situation as best as you can.

DO reward your child for dry nights on a consistent basis. The consistent basis is very important. Being inconsistent in parenting in any area will not get you very far and it accomplishes little.

DO everything you can to make your child feel as comfortable and secure as possible (both physically and emotionally). For example, you might suggest that your child wear thicker underwear or pajamas, or GoodNites to bed at night.

DO try as many different kinds of treatments as possible for your child until you find one that works.

DO make an honest attempt to alter habits your child has that can contribute to the problem, such as drinking fluids right before bedtime or consuming too much sugar or caffeine.

The Don'ts

DON'T criticize your child or make him feel ashamed of bed-wetting. He probably feels bad enough already without you making him feel worse.

DON'T blame your child for his condition. This can damage his vulnerable self-esteem tremendously.

DON'T scold or punish your child for bed-wetting. In most cases, the child has no control over his actions, and discipline will not create results

DON'Tprohibit your child from spending the night at a friend’s house or going camping because of his condition. Instead, encourage him to participate in the activities he enjoys and take steps to end the bed-wetting problem for good.

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